10 Shyness Questions for new moms
It took ten months. After the baby landed, the husband thought that "finally can boot", but the physical recovery of women takes time, and sometimes because of the baby and various psychological factors, the result has become "cold"! This article will answer your difficult sex questions!

Women's postpartum sex drive decreases

According to Western studies, postpartum women do experience reduced libido due to physiological and psychological factors.

The physiological part includes wound pain, lochia, etc. In addition, the rise of postpartum prolactin will also inhibit sexual desire, and the baby's sleep will also be affected by the baby's rest and rest. The psychological part is worried about the baby's crying or sleeping with the baby, and can not feel at ease to make love. In addition, postpartum mothers need to breastfeed every two or three hours, almost in a state of lack of sleep. Naturally, it is difficult to devote oneself to mental health and enjoyment, so as to be in a state of cooperation and accommodation, which is also the reason for the decline of postpartum female sexual desire.

It is recommended to resume sex at six weeks postpartum

In general, obstetricians and gynecologists in Taiwan usually recommend resuming sex at 6 weeks postpartum, because at this time most wounds have healed and lochia has been discharged. But some couples get better sooner. Doctors say that if sex is resumed too early, it is mostly due to the need of the mother to cooperate with the teacher, because even if the wound is healed and the lochia is drained, the more intense sexual intercourse will still cause pain, and the pain caused by sexual intercourse may still last for months. Therefore, it is generally recommended to resume sex at 6 weeks postpartum. If the mother still cannot bear the pain caused by the wound, she may need to ask the teacher to gently deal with it.

10 Shy questions

Q1. Can Caesarean section restore sex life early?

In general, the recommended recovery time for natural birth and caesarean section is 6 weeks postpartum, but this will vary depending on the physical recovery and psychological state of each woman. Doctors say that according to Western studies, more than 10% of people who resume sex two weeks after giving birth do, in fact, resume sex before lochia has been excreted does increase the chance of infection. Physical state recovery, it is still recommended to resume sex 6 weeks after delivery.

Q2. Can I use lubricant?

Just beginning to resume sexual life, women due to hormone secretion has not yet recovered, the wound may also cause pain. Under both psychological and physical influence, the vagina may be relatively dry. Doctors say that if a lack of humidity is found to affect sexual intercourse, a moderate amount of lubricant can also be used. However, sometimes the psychological impact is larger, and the postpartum mother needs to relax and ask her husband not to be too intense.

Q3. Did the husband say it was stronger after natural delivery?

Some mothers share that when they resume sex after natural childbirth, their husbands actually feel tighter than before. This is different from the established impression that natural childbirth causes vaginal relaxation. After the fetus through the vagina should be relatively relaxed, and the husband feels tighter, may be postpartum vagina is still congested, let a person have the illusion of firm, 6 weeks after the congestion will gradually improve postpartum. If you have trouble with vaginal laxity, you can do kegel exercises after childbirth to achieve a firming effect.

Q4. Out of shape what to do?

Some mothers think that their postpartum body has not recovered, and they really do not want to let the other half see their loose figure, so they have psychological barriers to sexual intercourse. Doctors say that childbirth will make a woman's body change, and this is only a transitional period, the husband must also accept this change, as long as both sides adjust their emotions.

Q5. Will the wound open after resuming intercourse?

Even when the wound heals, it can take months or even half a year for it to be completely pain-free. During this period, if the sex is too violent, it may cause the wound to tear. Therefore, be sure to ask the teacher not to be too intense, especially when returning to sexual life.

Q6. Can I have sex next to a baby?

Most postpartum babies share the same room with their parents, so many mothers worry that making love in front of the baby will pollute the baby's heart, but the doctor said that such a small baby does not understand the meaning of the parents' behavior and most of the time is sleeping, parents do not have to worry about the baby's perception, rest assured to do it! The doctor said that in fact, the baby is around, most of them are worried that the baby's crying will interrupt the sexual harmony between the couple.

Q7. Can I not use birth control if I am still breastfeeding?

In theory, you don't ovulate during breastfeeding, but not 100%. Condom use is usually recommended when having sex while breastfeeding. In addition to better contraceptive effectiveness, it also reduces the chance of postpartum wound infection.

Q8. Do I need to empty breast milk before intercourse?

Draining milk before intercourse is the ideal situation to avoid the discomfort caused by distention. In addition, after feeding the baby to sleep, you can also avoid interrupting sexual intercourse because the baby wakes up crying.

Q9. At first I thought the lochia was gone, but after having sex, the lochia came out again. Is this normal?

Doctors say sometimes lochia isn't completely gone. Even if you stop for a few days, the blood will appear again after the room. And seek medical attention as soon as possible.

Q10. Can sexual life promote uterine recovery?

Orgasm during sexual intercourse causes contractions of the uterus. Doctors say that moderate uterine contractions do help the uterus recover, but they can sometimes cause bleeding, but usually only if the lochia has not been discharged. It has been confirmed that lochia has been completely discharged, and there has been no lochia for a long time, but bleeding is found during sexual intercourse, which may be abnormal and must be sought medical attention.